Each week, THE FIVE-STIR brings you "Confessions from a Wing Girl," from Marni Kinrys--a woman who puts her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
HERE'S A QUESTION FROM LESLIE:
Hi Marni! My name is Leslie. I'm a 47 yr old black guy. Divorced, 3 kids, 2 of which are living w me, helping them make the transition 2 adulthood.
With my hectic schedule, I've realized I can't really give a long-term relationship the time it needs (hence the end of my 2+ yr relationship last week). How do I date women knowing this?
AND SOME WISE WORDS OF ADVICE FROM MARNI:
Basically you are asking me if it's okay to date multiple women and explore them on a semi casual basis. Correct?
I'm all for exploring your options and creating a life that is fun, exciting and works for you. HOWEVER, once you start involving others it can become tricky because your wants may not coincide with their wants.
As a note, this can even happen when both people have similar end goals (eg. LTR).
So, my advice to you is to be honest with tact. This does not mean telling a woman on the first date "Hey, I just want to let you know that I don't want anything serious and just want to have sex and fun".
It means, not leading a woman down a path that is false so that you can get what you want.
As long as you are being honest through your actions and not promising things that may give false hope, you are free to do whatever you want.
#1 rule: As long as you are not hurting, misleading OR being dishonest, you are allowed to do and ask for whatever you want.
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