Confessions from a Wing Girl #19: "Is it ever OK to date your friend’s ex?"

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A friend of mine at work has been dating this woman named Kat for a few months. He recently told me he was “over her” and starting to date other girls. I’m extremely attracted to Kat and would love to ask her out, but I don’t know when (or if) it is a good idea. I don’t think he’s officially broken it off with Kat, but since he’s dating other girls, I feel like it might be OK to ask her out for a drink. Is it ever OK to date your friend’s ex? And if so, when’s a good time to make my move?




It’s totally fine to date your friend’s ex, but I would definitely talk to your friend about it first.  I know this can be an awkward situation, but it will be more awkward when you have to tip toe around your friend and like to him just to avoid a little discomfort.

If your friend is cool with it and he should be since he is dating others, advise him that it’s best that he tell Kat, it’s over.  Only douchy guys stay with girls they are over and continue to lead them on.  Very unmanly and totally un-cool.

After he does, I would wait about a week to ask her out.  But in the mean time, I would initiate contact with Kat.  Flirt, talk to her, challenge her BUT do not talk to her about your friend.  You want to show her that you are light, easy and fun to be around.  If you start talking “old relationship” stuff with her, you quickly become her shoulder and may get stuck in the friend zone that grossest place for any guy to be.


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