Each week, THE FIVE brings you "Confessions from a Wing Girl," from Marni Kinrys--a woman who puts her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
A QUESTION FROM DAVID
There is a girl at the place I work. Every time our eyes meet, she blushes.
There is something between us but I don't know what. I have clocked out for her at the end of the day and she seems really happy for me to do this, however she only allowed me to do this once.
She has winked at me and she has checked me out .She has also looked at me when I enter the room. At the end of the day I say bye and she responds but she does not initiate anything.
A) What is she doing?
B) What can I do?
AND SOME WISE WORDS FROM MARNI
Answer to B: YOU CAN ASK HER OUT!!!!!
Answer to A: She is living her life and being friendly to a co-worker.
From the actions you describe, it sounds like you may be creating this “connection’ in your head. There is no indication that she is into you BUT there is also no indication that she is not into you. See what I am saying?
If you are waiting for her to pounce on you it's not going to happen. If you want something YOU have to go for it. Especially when it comes to women. Women, even successful women in business, still want to be feminine. They typically do not take the initiative to make the aggressive first move.
Subtle signs like winking or smiling could be saying to you “ask me out fool”. They could also be saying “I have something in my eye.”. It’s up to you to find out more.
Right now you are playing it safe with her. You are taking little steps to “test” if she likes you but in reality you are actually just protecting yourself.
But protecting yourself and staying in the safe zone will almost never result in getting what you want.
As the famous Wayne Gretsky says, “You miss 100% of the shots you never take.” So start taking shots ;-)
Again, if you want her, go after her. Be masculine, be a leader and tell her you want to take her out.
P.s. No more punching her time card for her, unless you’re “punching in” somewhere else as well!
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