Each week, FIVE THôT brings you "Confessions from a Wing Girl," from Marni Kinrys--a woman who puts her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
If it is OK, may I ask you a question about a situation--specifically, if there is any way to recover from this?
I met a girl at Whole Foods last week. We have been trying to make plans to meet up for lunch and with her moving into her new place and things being hectic for her, and myself going home for the week to see my family, we agreed that it would have to be sometime the next week.
Anyway, I think I got too cute on a text (sent this AM):
"Hey how do you like your new place? Are you "stuffed animals on the bed" unpacked yet? (Yes even though you are this strong athletic girl, I can totally picture you keeping at least one stuffed animal...)"
Didn't hear back from her, and I am a little concerned that my attempt to be funny might have been too much. (She is a tomboy, and she admitted when we met that she swears when she drives. But she does seem sort of feminine underneath...) She is also said she was hectic setting things up with the move... So maybe this text was off.
My plan is to just call her Sunday night. How does that sound?
Meanwhile, I hope you are well!
I will be honest with you. The text was a little creepy. The joke was not conveyed properly and it gave me an icky feeling. The text seemed a little premature and too cutesy to be texting to a girl you just met. It sounded like a boyfriend/girlfriend text. But from a new guy it’s just creepy.
In the future, think before you text and think to yourself, am I texting to actually say something or am I texting to make sure she doesn’t forget about me.
Texts that come from that “I hope she doesn’t forget about me” place always fail UNLESS she is already into you.
The one thing to point out is that you guys had already said you were going to talk/hang out next week. Therefore there was no NEED to contact her. If you wanted to be sweet, you could have sent a simple (non-creepy) text saying something like “so how did the move go?” or “successful move?” or “enjoying your new place?” and that’s it.
If there was a connection with this girl she should be able to shake the text and move forward to actually meeting you.
Make sure you pull back a little and understand that just because a girl is into you and accepts an invite does not mean she is your girlfriend.
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