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Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
I have a question on calling the next day after a date. I met this great woman and had a great time with her. At the end of the night she hugged me and said that she never kisses on the first date, I gave her a few kisses on the cheek and she gave me a few back. I got a great vibe off of the whole thing, I am confident that it wasn't a cop out and we talked about seeing each other again.
I want to text/call her and tell her that I had a great time and set up the second date. I am thinking that I should highlight some of the things that were great in getting to know her on the date and then take the same approach of the first date and tell her I want to see her again and give an agenda for the second date. Does this make sense? Should I call or text? Any advice you have here will be golden as always!
I hope all is well, and I look forward to hearing from you!
My belief system is that you can do WHATEVER you want, as long as you are doing with the right intentions. So, if the reason you are texting/calling is to emotionally calm you, then DON"T DO IT. If it's to make her think you are "nice", don't do it. But if you genuinely want to text her to say you had a great time, DO IT!
But leave it at that. Say you had a great time and it was great discovering her addiction to gummy bears. Something cute. Or if you had a strong connection and talked on a deeper level, let her know you find it refreshing to meet a woman who does XYZ.
After dates, I want you to take time for yourself to process, get back to your life and then you can reach out again to set up another date.
NOTE: Not sure if you listened to the interview I did with Jake in how to become the kind of man women want but he and I discuss the end of date statement that's gold.
GOLD STATEMENT: He would always say to a girl (if he liked her) "I had a great time with you and would like to take you out again next week. Are you free Wed?”
It's a hard statement to say no to. It's direct, it's clear, and it’s confident.
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