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Here is Confessions from a Wing Girl #3: "She Brought Her Ex On Our Date?"
A QUESTION FROM MAX
I went on a date with girl. It was our second date and she brought along her ex. What does this mean? Is she into me? Confused at what’s going on.
Any help would be appreciated.
AND SOME WISE WORDS FROM MARNI
Whoa, Whoa, Whoa!!!! She brought a guy, let alone an ex on your date?? Did you make it clear you were asking her on a date? Did she ask your permission to bring someone along?
The answers to these questions don’t matter but the message behind them should. If you are not clear with your intentions then a woman is free to interpret however she pleases.
I have to be honest and say she probably knew you wanted to be alone with her but obviously did not want that. Hence the “I’ll bring my ex-boyfriend to our date so I can show you another example of a guy I am not interested in.”
If she WAS into you, she would never have brought along another dude. To me it sounds like this was her subtle way of saying, “I’m not into you but I am open to being friends”. Or “I think you and my ex would really get along.” ;-)
If you ever find yourself in this situation again, pull the girl aside and say: “I’m realizing, I may not have been clear with my intentions. I’m into you. I think you’re great and want to date you. Get to know you better. I’m guessing from you bringing your ex with you that we may not be on the same page. What do you want?”
If you are clear on what you want with a woman and if she can’t give that to you, then you are free to walk away. Or at least have all the evidence so you can make an educated decision.
Honesty and being clear on what you want are the best time savers and money savers in the world.
Remember, you are always allowed to speak your mind and tell women what you think/want.
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