I waited back stage at the Renaissance Hotel ballroom, where the Pick Up Artist SUMMIT was in full swing and I was the next scheduled speaker. If you’re not familiar with the term Pick Up Artist, as many people are not, it means a man who is considered to be skilled at meeting, attracting, and seducing women. Typically Pick Up Artists, or PUA's, are associated with the seduction community, a heterosexual male subculture based on the goal of improved sexual and romantic abilities with women. For years this world has been kept a secret but with the success of VH1’s show “The Pick Up Artist” and Neil Strauss’ best selling book “The Game”, it‘s not so Secret anymore. In fact it's become big business.
The PUA Summit was a gathering of the world's top PUA’s and their followers who were eager to learn. Some of the experts teach lines, others teach routines but all teach their method on the art of getting the girl.
If you‘re confused as to why I, a woman, was speaking at the PUA SUMMIT, let me give a quick description of my job. I pick up women for men. Let me rephrase that… I’m a professional WING GIRL. Men pay me to help them pick up, attract, date and get the women they want. Not to brag, but I'm really freakin good at it. Besides getting invited to speak at the PUA Summit this year where I was awarded “World's best FEMALE PUA OF THE YEAR“, I have successfully helped 100's of thousands of great men get the women they want.
So how did a nice Jewish girl like me get into this profession? I started my business, the same way most people do. Drunk and by accident. On a Friday night, I attended a Shabbat dinner at Rabbi Shwartzies home. I'm not religious but I was new to LA and wanted to connect with my people. Just like any other Jewish event, this dinner was also a singles mixer. I had just started dating someone a month earlier (who I am now married too) but felt there was no harm in window-shopping.
Rabbi Shwartzies matching making soiree, was off to a rocky start and the event felt more like a junior high dance than a singles mixer. Boys on one side of the room, girls on the other side. NO ONE WAS INTERACTING. So I started grabbing men and pushing them (sometimes literally) to talk to women. When they were done interacting, I would give them feedback on their technique, made tweaks and send them out again.
By the end of the night, people were mixing, exchanging numbers and having a great time.
I went home, buzzed from the night and the open bar, and started complaining about to my roommate about my job. I was in PR at the time and hating every second of it. I said to him, “What if I could do what I did tonight… but for money? What if I was Wing Girls”? My roommate responded with, “there is no way guys would pay for a service like that unless you threw in a BJ and case of beer.” I disagreed with him and marched into my bedroom and put an ad up on Craig’s List. It went something like this "What better way to attract bees than with honey...” By the next morning we had over 75 responses and the start of a business!
I have to admit, the first few months were kind of weird because I was trying to figure out what exactly is was that I had just created. The media pounced on me, men were intrigued, a pimp wanted me to join his ring and my family was concerned. I had no idea what I was doing, but I didn’t let that stop me.
I took the business to a whole new level when I met a man named David DeAngelo. David invited me to speak at one of his PUA events called "Mastering The Art of Approaching Women".
What I didn't know about David D (his real name is Eben Pagen) was that he was a master online marketer and was filming his seminar so he could distribute DVD’s to hundreds of thousands of men around the world. And that is how I quickly pushed into the world of Pick Up and became the first female run and operated business in the industry.
All of the sudden I was getting recognized at Starbucks by men who had seen the David DeAngelo video.
The business has shifted and morphed since then. I no longer take men out and pick up women for them. I sell products online, I do one-on-one Skype coaching sessions with men all over the world, I run a website ranked in the top 5% of all websites and I'm invited to speak with attraction and dating experts at seminars around the World.
Even though I probably think the story of my business is entirely unique and no one else has experienced what I have, I know that’s not true. Every day people stop and start businesses. But I have realized 1 important thing over the last 8 years. Even though I have my ups, downs and plenty of challenges, I never stop DOING.
You see the world is full of dreamers and doers. Dreamers, dream about what could, should and might happen. But doer’s, make it happen no matter what. If you are reading this, you are most likely a doer. Or at least a dreamer on your way to becoming a doer.
It is my core belief that every dreamer can be a doer if they just started DOING, one step at a time.
Step 1: Start doing and everything else will follow :)
Author Marni Kinrys is the ultimate Wing Girl. A woman who puts her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you".
Marni has been prominently featured in The Los Angeles Times, CNN, The Huffington Post, Fox News, The Chicago Tribune, Marie Claire, Elle, Men’s Health, BlackBook, Penthouse, Asylum.com, Creative Loafing, AOL Personals, Askmen.com & more.