Rejection sucks. It does. It sucks for men. It sucks for women (yes women get rejected too). Overall it sucks. BUT, it sucks less when you experience it more. Honestly, I know that seems counter intuitive but it’s true.
I know from my own personal experience, that the more I put myself out there and feel the brunt of rejection, it actually effects me less.
I’m going to be gross for one second but I was listening to NPR yesterday and they were discussing torture victims. They said that those who experienced torture in their lives, no longer felt fear. It’s as if they hit their tipping point after being tortured and developed the belief system that nothing could be worse, so why be fearful. This made them push forward even harder and with more confidence.
I talk to hundreds of guys every week, thousands every month and they all fear the same thing, REJECTION!!! So instead of putting themselves out there to possibly be rejected, they don’t do anything and get no results. In my opinion that’s just silly. They are basically rejecting themselves, so that they won’t experience being rejected by a woman.
A few days ago, I was responding to comments that people post on my blog and I stumbled across one that made me think, this guy gets it!! This guy gets how to handle rejection by a woman AND how to flip the switch so his response creates attraction. It’s posted below:
This post honestly made my day!! I love hearing when guys who read my materials finally get it and they stay grounded and calm. Totally sexy and super attractive to women.
Honestly there is nothing sexier than a man who is unaffected by my actions. Gives me chills just thinking about it. Why is this? Because it signals to me that this man can handle things.
“I had this guy that I had stuck in the friend zone for years. Whenever he would bring up becoming something more, I would say no I don’t want to ruin our friendship blah blah blah and he would crumble and try to convince me to be with him. Total turn off. Then one time when he brought it up, he said to me OK, smiled and then stopped contacting me. That man has been my boyfriend for 2.5 years. Ha.” – Emily 28
Lesson: Rejection isn’t the bad thing, it’s the way you handle it that can make you feel so horrible.
So here is my exercise to you (you knew this was coming):
GO OUT AND GET REJECTED 10 TIMES THIS WEEKEND!!!
I am being totally serious. Go out, take chances, approach super hot women YOU believe would never give you the time of day, say whatever you want to her and then get rejected and love it!!! Even smile or laugh to yourself after you get rejected and then walk away.
I want to hear about all your experiences, stories, success, failures so make sure to come back and write them below in the comments box.
The goal of this exercise is to have fun being rejected. This little psychological tweak will, improve your presence with women, help you stay grounded and teach you how to handle rejection with grace so that women find you attractive.