Each week, FIVE THôT brings you "Confessions from a Wing Girl," from Marni Kinrys--a woman who puts her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
I just turned 25 and I’m not unattractive by any means, and I’d like to say I’m damn charming and funny, and I know I’m smart. The thing is, I always seem to get ‘friend zoned’ by girls really quickly. I’ve only slept with one girl before and that’s my ex, but now that I’m single and looking I can’t seem to find a girl interested in me. What’s the deal?
- James in San Francisco
When you are start looking for girls that are interested in you, you typically fall flat on your face because how are they going to be interested in you without actually knowing you? From your email I am hearing that a lot of attempted pleasing may be going on. Meaning you’re attempting to be someone for these women that you’re not in order to make them like you. Not good and will never work to create attraction.
Here’s what I suggest you do from now on. Instead of trying to be interesting to women based on what you think they want, be interesting to you based on what you want. Once you start being you and not worrying about what she wants, women actually become way more attracted to you.
Remember, the only one putting you in the friend zone is YOU.
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