Dating, relationships, attraction--love is a tricky thing. That's why we bring you Confessions from a Wing Girl. Each week Marni Kinrys doles out wise advice on dating, relationships, and communication by using her insider knowledge to good use for the betterment of all men by telling them what women REALLY want, not what they say they want.
Marni has worked with 100's of thousands of men all over the world to help them understand women so they can attract, date, seduce and get any woman they want without being a jerk. Her method, The Wing Girl Method, is based on the key principle of "You gotta turn yourself on first before any woman will ever be attracted to you". For more about Marni, click here.
I have the hardest time telling women "no." Even when I have absolutely no desire to date them, have lunch with them, or even talk with them, I find that I always say "ok." How can I save myself from unwanted situations?
By just saying NO!!! It's so funny because we had this exact discussion on my podcast the other day (The Ask Women Podcast). The guy asking the question was a super nice guy but he had this habit of saying yes to women and then dodging them to avoid having to follow through on what he had agreed to.
Here's what we told him: "MAN UP." Do you know what this behavior is doing to women and doing to you???
To women it's messing with their heads, creating confusion and insecurities and worst of all perpetuating this stereotype that men are dogs. They are going to take all of this into the next situation they have with another man. Which screws that man and screws the women. No good.
To you, it makes you look like a jerk, a coward and dog and I know that is not what you are. You just want to avoid making a woman sad or unhappy while she's in front of you cause it causes it discomfort.
My advice is to handle those tiny moments of discomfort and MAN UP. Tell her the truth. It may hurt her for a moment but at least it won't spiral into worse repercussions. You can say "I'm going to have to say no to your offer. I think you are great but I don't want to lead you on."
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