They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. We all see ourselves differently, and are attracted and repelled by different things. This is true in how we view others, and how we view ourselves.
I have a friend who tries very hard to project a positive image about his looks. He walks with a swagger, and talks positively—almost arrogantly, about his appearance. But does he truly really have the self-confidence he wants to project? He’s repeated one story to me many times—“I caught a look at myself in the mirror the other day and thought, wow, who is that good looking guy?”
The fact that he repeats this story over and over again suggests that he’s trying to convince himself, and others, that he has a positive self-image, but most likely he does not believe in what he is saying. He probably has a great deal of self-doubt about his positive body image.
And he’s not alone.
The folks at Dove have been on a quest for many years to address body image dysmorphic issues—closing the gap between how we see ourselves, and the reality of how we actually look. The more we focus on the perceived deficits of our physical features, the more negatively we see ourselves as human beings.
Recently, Dove releases a fantastic video that addresses the differences between how we see ourselves, and reality. They asked a sketch artist to draw what women say they look like—big eyes, a protruding chin, big eyebrows, etc. And then force women to look at sketches created based on their words. While Dove's focus is women's issues of self-esteem, I believe both men and women can reality to these issues.
Take a look at the video, and just try not to be affected by its power.
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