Guest author and entrepreneur Valerie Grison is the Founder, CEO and Creative Director of StoraLab, a company creating exciting, engaging online & mobile experiences for kids age 7-14.
Procrastination. Just hearing the word makes you feel guilty. Right?
We have to be perfect. Do not allow yourself to be lazy! Don't you dare be a human with flaws. How come we can't authorize ourselves to just not feeling like doing something?
There are at least two good reasons for not doing things right away:
The first and simplest one: you simply dislike it. That’s okay! It’s a healthy way of thinking. You can't like everything. It doesn’t help to hide that you don't like it just because of the image of perfection you want to give. Be honest with yourself, you're not perfect and never will be.
You can't live like that. One day the truth will come out, and it will feel like a failure --because you were not prepared to accept your flaws, a failure in the eyes of the others because they will discover a weaker "you".
What's wrong with doing the things you prefer first?
The second reason for "procrastinating" is that you are not ready yet to accomplish the task. You need more time. Even if you don't realize it, your brain is still thinking about it and working to put it in shape before externalizing it. It could take hours, days, weeks...
Again, you NEED to allow yourself to wait without guilt. Don't be too hard on yourself! When you are ready, you will know and will be good at it.
How come some of us can get something done only when we have a specific deadline?
Well, it is exactly the same process, except that those with a "lazier" brain need pressure to get to work. Or they lack confidence, and the deadline creates an obligation that will overcome their lack of confidence.
The next time you feel bad because you are procrastinating, breathe deep, go outside to do something different and pleasant, and when you come back, make sure you know why you are procrastinating. Then use the procrastination as a tool to align with yourself and reinforce yourself.